The Infidelity & Cheating Support Center

Every person is unique, but when you face a challenge like infidelity, you are never alone.  Countless men and women have faced the exact same issue and have survived and thrived.  The following guide is designed to help you navigate your journey with the best information and resources that helped other survivors when they faced the same challenge.

TSC has scoured the Internet and assembled links to the very best infidelity resources: articles, blogs, forums and tools that can help you make better decisions and take action to overcome the range of physical, emotional and other challenges that you face.

As you’ll see, we always welcome your ideas and suggestions to make this Infidelity Guide even more helpful to survivors like you.    

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Survivors Say: Best Resources for Infidelity

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• Women's Infidelity

The Big Picture

There are various forms of infidelity. They include emotional infidelity, Internet infidelity, and other such subtle forms of behavior that can feel like a betrayal to one or both partners. When infidelity occurs in a relationship, it does not necessarily mean that the relationship is over. It is important to understand the underlying problems and consequences of infidelity and how both partners feel about it.

To explore some of the issues associated with infidelity, visit:

Truth About Deception: Lying and Infidelity in Romantic Relationships

Your Infidelity

To better understand your specific case of infidelity, learn about the types and different terms used to describe the behavior

Infidelity Support: Types of Infidelity

Infidelity often has common symptoms and signs to look for.

Test Medical Symptoms at Home: 28 Signs of a Cheating Spouse

After finding out about infidelity, you may have a lot of questions about the affect it will have on your relationship. To answer some of these questions:

Divorce Magazine: Infidelity Articles

Your World

After finding out about infidelity, you will likely be in an emotional turmoil. To find support for the emotions you are experiencing:

Life Saviors: An Infidelity Support Group - Can a Relationship Survive Infidelity?

Infidelity Myths

• Everyone cheats
  
• Men cheat more than women
• Infidelity results in divorce

Information and Recommended Links for Survivors

• The Side Road: Dealing with Infidelity - What Not to Do
  
• Future Scopes: Dealing with Infidelity
• Ask Mars Venus: Dealing with Infidelity - How to Handle a Cheating Spouse or Lover 

Types of Treatment

Therapy

Therapy can help resolve common questions that arise after infidelity, namely whether to remain together or part ways.

AAMFT - Infidelity Consumer Update

Divorce Counseling

Infidelity can cause irreparable damage to a relationship. If a couple decides to separate, divorce counseling can make the decision easier.

Overcoming Personal Crisis: Los Angeles Couples Infidelity Treatment

Creating a support circle

• Set up your TSC Survivor Profile
• Join support groups of other survivors or set up your own
• Interact and provide updates on your profile or our forums

Health-care Providers Who Can Help

Mental health professionals treat patients who have experienced infidelity and wish to heal. Different types of mental health professionals can provide various benefits.

For a list of types of mental health providers and what they can do for you, follow this link:

National Alliance on Mental Illness: Mental Health Professionals

Resources to Find Doctors

Choosing and Communicating with an Infidelity Specialist:

Marriage and Relationship Counseling: Will Counseling Really Help My Marriage? 

The Emotional Roller-coaster

Surviving with infidelity proves to be a challenge to everyone faced with it. It is important to understand your emotions and what the consequences of infidelity may be.

Books Survivors Recommend

Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On -- Together or Apart
Infidelity: A Survival Guide
Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain
Unfaithful: Rebuilding Trust After Infidelity 

What Survivors Wish They’d Known

Communicating with Your Health-care providers

• Make a list of questions to ask your therapist about their background
• Make a list of concerns about your situation
• Ask another therapist to sit in on your session to help your communication
  

Dealing with Infidelity: Information and Recommended Links for Co-Survivors

How you can help

• Be supportive and objective
• Involve them in outside activities to help take their mind off the situation
  

What to say    

• "I will support your decision whether you decide to stay or go"
• "I heard about…from…Do you want to talk about it?"
• Tell them how much you care about them   
  

What not to say

• “You should have been a better spouse”
• "How could you not know?”
• "You should have left years ago”
  

Things you can do for a survivor every day

Offering day-to-day support is a great gift to give a family member with infidelity or a friend/neighbor that has been through infidelity.

How to build a support network

• Set up your TSC Co-Survivor Profile
• Create a support group for your friend or family member.
• Interact and provide updates
  

How to help a survivor deal with day-to-day challenges

Explaining infidelity to a child: Marriage Builders - Infidelity, The Lesson Children Learn

After recovery, assess and share with others how you feel emotionally, mentally and spiritually. Recovering from an experience like this is almost as shocking as learning about it for the first time for some people. By telling your story, you can not only put into perspective your thoughts and feelings but you can provide hope to others who are going through a similar journey themselves, whether it be with physical infidelity, another form of infidelity, or a completely different crisis.

Remission / Recovery / Recurrence   

Unfortunately, infidelity has a way of recurring or at least holds a constant threat. To avoid recurrence, discuss prevention with each other.

After Infidelity: Apologies

Give back

What helped you while you were dealing with the revelation or discovery of infidelity, undergoing treatment and realized you had recovered? Take a look back at your journey and share with other what helped you and what you wished you would have known/done during your infidelity experience. You can create a profile, reach out to other survivors, join support circles or share your story by following the links at TheSurvivorsClub.org. Check out some of the best charities for supporting infidelity research or offering support to survivors:

If your infidelity treatment has failed and you decide to break up, this site can provide information about all aspects of divorce: 

Divorce Support   

For advice on overcoming challenges related to infidelity from both a survivor and a co-survivor perspective, whether they be emotional, physical, spiritual or legal, read through:

Medline Plus: Family Issues