Dealing with the loss of a loved one is a very difficult time in your life. Each person handles their loss differently, and the grieving period can vary from person to person. Some people may take a long time mourning the loss of a loved one, or feel inconsolable in their grief. They may push away all offered support. Instead of healing over time, some people can fall deeper and deeper into depression. When this occurs, it can lead into other difficult life challenges.
If you are supporting someone who has just lost a loved one, just being with them and offering to listen can be enough support. Although you may feel that giving space is the best thing to do, sometimes you or a professional need to step in and get help before the situation escalates. If you are making an effort to contact the person and they seem to be avoiding your calls and perhaps remaining closed indoors for most of the day, this is a sign that you as a supporter should make an effort to step in and help even out their life. Other signs that he or she is in a state of inconsolable grief including hoarding, drinking, over-eating and other activities that are damaging to his or her life. Often they may do these activities because they are in a state of depression and may offer some temporary relief from the pain.
These following links offer you more resources on recovering from a devastating loss and dealing with your grief so it doesn't become inconsolable and cause a negative turn in your life.